Sometimes it is easy to lose the freshness of life. The pure naivety of this one. The beautiful brain space without effort that looks at nature and sees security. The right idea that we are many versions of ourselves; Knowing these versions is being powerful. The practical idea that we are a mass of water and feelings, trying to give meaning to a larger world than we can rightly imagine it.
When the James Webb space telescope captured images From the invisible universe and Jupiter, my brain went to a place that I feared. How could the atmosphere continue; How does expansiveness hold us and hide us? I am narrowed as if I could only see through the smallest lock hole, and see all these galaxies made me forget who I was. At the beginning, instead of appreciating galactic wonder, I reconciled with something obvious. We float. Everything I know to be sure: we turn and turn and turn.
So how can we blend? How do we find joy in the basic goods of life? Although seeing galaxy in detail gives us a pure perplexity, how can I allow expired experiences beyond great things to once again offer a sense of objective? And above all, how can I get back to earth?
What exactly is self-activation?
In my daily reading, Instagram surfing and unnecessary walks in my courtyard while I listen to podcasts, I discovered the expression “self-activation”. What exactly is self-activation? In psychology, it is the process by which an individual reaches his full potential. Okay, great. But what does that mean? Exercise is a process that I know I can use to reach my full potential. So why anticipate a race makes me want to transform into a heap of ashes? Being “updated” should not make me happy, whatever happens?
To better understand this, I turned to the hierarchy of Abraham Maslow's needs. According to an article by Scott Barry Kaufman American scientist (Note from the writer: Who does not spend time on a scientific website at all hours of the day?), The emphasis put by Maslow concentrated “on the idea that self-activated people are motivated by health, growth, integration, integration, humanitarian purpose and” real problems of life “. You can be self-activated and always encounter difficulties (Case A: Me, imagining 10,000 galaxies in a way pushed into a grain of sand).
To better understand how this process worked, I started to define self-activation as the simple act of Know who I am And be able to Reside in this space for a while. Or, as Maslow would put it beautifully, “a healthy self-realization on the path of self-transcendence”.
Simplify the idea of personal acceptance.
Everything I write Attributes to self-activation in one way or another. I am constantly trying to define, understand and share myself. And in today's world, built on technology and agitation always beéré, self-activation has become more crucial than I have made. And more difficult to accomplish. How to have time to accept my quirks and live inside them?
According to the Internet, we have time to accept all these things. Self-actualization is acceptance, authenticity and equanimity and goal and humanitarianism and good moral attitude and a glance and which is tired of reading this? I know I am.
I am constantly trying to define, understand and share myself. And in today's world, built on technology and agitation always beéré, self-activation has become more crucial than I have made.
How can we simplify the realization for ourselves? How can we get closer to who we are and accept this in a way that looks like surrender? Instead of the battle?
Two words: time alone.
In a Girls night in bulletin,, Jodi Elliott wrote a submission that explained how she started to refer to her time alone as “updating time”. She writes: “What I do is go down and enter the groove of me, the groove of my 20 year old self and me and me of 30 years and me and 41 years old, I think of thoughts and writing words and spending time with myself. I think of motherhood and success and lost dreams.
AW is happiness.
Shouldn't we constantly focus on rumination? Take time for things that bring us such bland joy, their franchise helps us to become silent and listen to who we are? We rarely build space to spend time with ourselves, and we should. We are not good for the world unless we do it. We owe it to our children. We owe it to the environment and our family.
Here are some things I do when I have time of updating:
- Water and cut my plants
- Paint a horse and a foal by figures while looking at the reruns of Fabulous
- Prepare a box in my house for good will
- Paint butterflies on the rocks of the flat river
- Stand next to a horse
- Read the old newspaper entries
- Spend countless hours in an antiquity store
- Make a little drunk wine alone and listen to Fleetwood Mac
- Photos of tearing the inspiration of the house in old magazines and stick them in a notebook as I did with photos of Justin Timberlake
- Listen to music without words – imagine all the lives I have not or could have
Many things happen during these moments. Most of them demand that I calm down, so I am able to sit with my thoughts; Come face to face with the reality of my faults and my quirks. I remember who I was when I was a little girl and I compare it now. I quickly realize that we are a lot like nature, and the only constant is change.
Here are some elements that ruin any feeling of updating:
- A condemnation gap session on social networks
- Amazon of stress
- Be surrounded by people in a small room (aka networking)
- Reply to several team messages both
- Read a book that I don't like
- Count how many “I like” I obtained on my Instagram publication
- Validate my self -esteem by popularity
When I ruin my updating process, I feel overwhelmed by my mind. I become easily distracted. I am mean. I am clever and drive with neglect respect. I spend too much money and I sit inside guilt longer. I am frustrated by my anger and, like a kind of cruel domino, I think that the flicker of things falls at the same time. I let myself be slowly unraveling, almost without knowing it. I am stuck in these cycles, and I know that we all do it.
I do not know if I would define self-activation as a growth.
I know that Maslow does it, but I find it hard to feel self -pressure. Awareness is of course attributed to growth. But while a “writer must write” to feel happy, self-activation can also be the worst. A writer must also be a bad writer, stop writing, sit in the water and understand who they are without him. Our best self must also be the worst of ourselves. We must be a bad self and a good self, stop completely “self-self”, sit in the water, meditate and understand who we are without the others.
Elliott writes at the end of the newsletter: “I came to think of” updating “not as being the brightest, the most successful and most ambitious part of me. But the most humble and true part of me. ”
She is right. The simple fact is: we are who we are. We have to sit with that. Remember the F * CK of your life. Right now, at the moment, we are all we have.
Brittany Chaffee is a passionate storyteller, a professional empath and an author. On a daily basis, it is paid to develop strategies and create content for brands. Outside working hours, it is a well -lit place, hot bread and good company. She lives in St. Paul with her little cat brothers, Rami and Monkey. Follow her InstagramLearn more about his latest book, LimitAnd (especially) will kiss your mother.
